Parents often visit us feeling disheartened by their child’s behaviour. They feel stuck in a cycle, with no idea how to break it. At Pocket, we offer family consultations to help families in this situation. We like to bring a different perspective to stop behaviours being played out time and time again.
“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.“–Wayne Dyer
But changing your perspective is easier said than done right?
To change behaviour, we need to understand the function of it and explore alternative ways in which we can meet it’s function. We love to use the iceberg model to help us do this.
Above the water is the visible part of the iceberg which represents the behaviour that we can see. If we only pay attention to this part, the behaviour will continue because we are responding with little understanding of of what is causing it. To understand the behaviour, we have to look beneath the water. What factors drive this behaviour and are there certain conditions which maintain it?
If you would like more detail about the iceberg model and it’s use in bringing perspective and decoding difficult behaviours, check out our online programme Crack the Code. Follow us on Instagram for more general hints and tips on this topic too.