The Breakup Bounceback: dealing with parental separation and divorce

grief, loss and trauma

We have joined forces with the rather wonderful Disco Co. We love their friendly, fun and fresh approach to online learning – their courses cover everything from striptease lessons to career reset, and managing imposter syndrome!

We have collaborated with Disco Co to create The Breakup Bounceback course to guide people through a relationship breakup (one from years ago or maybe one that is on the horizon). It includes modules from other professionals ‘reclaiming your sexual self’ and ‘salvaging your self-worth’. Our bit is all about managing the adult and child grief, trauma and loss.

Check it out here  (I sneaked in an older photo to go with their ‘fresh’ look!)

Use this discount code to get 20% off: Andrea20

Top tips for parents

To launch The Breakup Bounceback we did a presentation and Q&A with the single parenting hub Frolo – here are the tips the parents found helpful:

1.      Fit your own oxygen mask first – always make space for what you need to deal with your own painful feelings and stress. You are your child’s safety and anchor, they can only be okay if you are okay!

2.      Give children a narrative that makes sense – when trying to explain something difficult to a child always give them enough information to make sense of whatever is going on e.g why you are so sad or why their dad hasn’t been in touch.  Without this they will simply fill in the gaps with something that is probably much worse and blaming of themselves.

3.      Make space for the painful feelings – don’t let guilt or fear stop you from acknowledging the loss or grief your child is feeling. You don’t have to make it better, just allow it.


As always,

Take Care

Pocket Family Psychologist

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“Dr Andrea Shortland’s session for MediaCom on a children’s mental health was incredibly informative. During the second period of lockdown and home-schooling; parents and children found themselves again in a period of upheaval and transition. Many parents and carers were extremely worried about their children’s mental health and their own ability to be present and engaged whilst also playing the role of teacher and care giver. Dr Shortland gave attendees an insight into how many parents were feeling; tips on supporting children and helping them cope whilst studying from home and also managing their mental health. She also helped us realise the importance of taking care of ourselves in order to effectively support our children. It was such a useful session that we realise it was also pertinent for not only children’s mental health but also adults! We will be holding another session with Dr Andrea and MediaCom soon.”

Avelon Thompson, MediaCom (following a parenting workshop)